What is a First Look?

Should I do it?

A first look is a time for the bride and groom to see each other before the ceremony, away from the eyes of hundreds of guests and relatives. It has gained popularity over the years, and many couples are opting to do it for their own weddings. Opting for a first look is completely dependent on the couple’s preferences however, and there is no rule that you must or must not have a first look at your own wedding. Our lists below are meant to help you make your own decision whether you want a first look for your special day or skip it altogether.

Why you should do a first look:

1. A first look allows a moment of quiet for the couple before the ceremony

This is probably one of the most compelling reasons to have a first look. The morning of the wedding day is very busy. There’s a lot of things happening and plenty of activity around you. There’s something about being able to sneak away and have a quiet moment together away from guests and allowing yourselves a moment to take it all in.

2. First looks allow for more portraits of the couple

The first look gives your wedding photographer the opportunity to take more portraits of you and your spouse-to-be. This could potentially free up time between the ceremony and reception, and frees you up to spend more time with your guests.

3. It’s a highly emotional moment

The first time the bride and groom see each other is going to be special and emotional. There’s always anticipation on the wedding day and the first look gives you the choice whether you want that moment for yourselves or if you would like to reserve it for the ceremony when you see each other across the aisle and share that first moment with your guests.

4. It’s anopportunity to take advantage of natural light

Since first looks happen during the daytime, there’s plenty of natural light guaranteed to go around. Some couples opt to have a first look so they can have plenty of portraits in the daytime instead of rushing after the ceremony to catch the light.

5. First looks can help calm jitters

Having a first look before you set out for the ceremony can help calm nerves. It’s normal to have jitters before the ceremony and some couples prefer to be able to settle and soothe them by having a first look and being able to see their spouse-to-be before hundreds of eyes are on them.

Why you shouldn’t do a first look

1. It helps build authentic anticipation until the ceremony

Not having a first look can build up genuine anticipation and excitement until that special moment when the bride walks down the aisle toward her groom. There’s nothing like a genuine reaction from the groom as he sees his bride for the very first time on that day, with all your loved ones being able to witness it. It looks amazing in your wedding images too.

2. First looks can build up the pressure

First looks bring pressure to both parties to react in ways which can be inauthentic to please the other party. Some grooms aren’t criers and may disappoint their brides if they don’t end up shedding a tear during the first look. However, if you would really like to be able to interact before the ceremony, a n0-look first look is an option. You can spend some time with each other in prayer or exchange small presents while blindfolded or with a door or a wall as a barrier.

3. First looks can cause you to rush through wedding prep

Having a first look scheduled means pushing everything earlier. Getting ready, wedding party photos, and family portraits can end up feeling hurried because a first look is on the wedding timeline. Consider devoting the prep time to having meaningful moments with family and friends. There will be time post-ceremony to take portraits with your spouse when you have tied the knot.

4. It’s not as private as most people think it is

The first look isn’t as private people perceive it to be, and can still cause even more camera shyness. There is something special about the walk down the aisle which can let you get caught up in the moment, it’s much easier to be self-conscious and aware of your wedding photographer and videographer lingering in the corners during the first look. No matter how hard they try to be discreet.

5. Lighting during the day isn’t the best

A lot of first looks happen during daylight when the sun is at its harshest. This really isn’t the ideal time for portraits and you will most likely be taking more portraits after the ceremony and during the golden hour when the lighting is ideal and more flattering.

So, is a first look right for you? As you continue to plan your big day and make preparations for it, it’s important to make decisions together as a couple. With the above points in mind, you can consider what’s important for both of you and what will make you comfortable and provide the best memories in the years to come. With every decision you make for your wedding, make sure to keep your wedding planner and Hawaii wedding photographer informed so they can also be prepared on the day-of and help you have a smooth and stress-free wedding experience.